Don’t try to be perfect – just try to be better than you were

Today I would like to tell you to don’t try to be perfect, just try to be better than you were. This is something you need to apply to all aspects of your life. From home to work. Love life to parenting.

Don’t try to be perfect – just try to be better than you were

Perfection takes a tremendous amount of effort. The closer you get to perfection, the smaller the return for same amount of effort. You could teach 100% perfect lessons. Observed-lesson standards. However, the price for doing so would be horrific. You would be up all night preparing. Making every lesson whizz-bang-pop. Even worse, to keep the kids interest. Every lesson would need to be even more attention grabbing than the last to keep up. You can’t have perfection in everything so perfect lessons would mean a less than perfect home life, less than perfect sleep etc. The answer is to take a step back and focus on being the best you can be and to learn from your mistakes so you are better than you were.

Don’t try to be perfect – Just be yourself and that’s all you need to do.

This is why people date furiously in their 20s. In your 20s you will have more close friends than you will ever have again. People are out to find the perfect partner. Perfect experience. You are constantly experimenting with the new adult you. I rarely managed to get past 6 weeks in a relationship. If the woman wasn’t a perfect fit in every way. Why bother? I did get better at dating with each try. I never got to perfect. Then I married and realised that you will never reach perfection as now there are way too many conflicting interests within the relationships.

Everyone has their own idea of who you are and how you fit into their lives. It is physically impossible to be everyone’s perfect pal. I learnt don’t try to be perfect. Just me. I now let others tackle BBQs and practical stuff such as carr and electrical problems. My perfect skills are in tea making and keeping kids occupied.

People then start to imagine the perfect lover. This is where things just get more and more absurd. This is because people’s sexual tastes are so diverse. Some people think getting strangled is a great idea. Others would call the police if you tried. Being the best you can be is simply paying attention to what is happening between you and making sure both feel well. I love getting better at this but sometimes the perfect intimate moment can just be cuddling up with a movie.

Being the perfect parent is impossible – just relax and all will be well.

Likewise, I don’t try to be perfect as a father. There are way too many different issues I can’t resolve. I try to be consistent and my son and I actively enjoy our technological races. For example, I will find a way of blocking his Internet access… within a day he will have cracked the child protection code, deleted or corrupted the software or found a spare SIM card which gives him endless internet. I realize that 99% of kids turn out perfectly well, no matter what happens to them. What I have learnt is I now just try to be better. I watch him more closely, spend more time trying to get him off the tablet and let him know he is lived. This is the best I can do.

Don’t try to be perfect in anything. If you wait until you are perfect, you will miss so many great opportunities to be better than you were. I tried to become a YouTube star and ofef to.e my videos got better. However, YouTube videos worth making take too long for me and that is why I moved onto blogging. I think my blogging posts are getting better, but they will never be perfect. A perfect blog would only focus on the keywords people are searching on Google. This is great but then again, where is the fun, the spontaneity?

You will become better at everything as you go through life. It’s like riding a bike. At first, everything is really hard to coordinate together. Over time, your confidence improves and things get easier. You get better. You become better than you were.

Imagine life as a garden – the messy confusion of a wild garden hides far more treasures and joys than a perfect, tidy one.

I live next door to my wife’s perfect garden. Not a leaf is out of place. Every flower knows when and how to blossom. It is a total marvel. Naturally the man is there all day working. I don’t try to be perfect. My garden is a mess. A chaotic mess. Plants which survive are encouraged. Plants which don’t are tried a few more times until I find something else to do there. The weird thing is, despite all of this, it is my garden which has the flocks of birds constantly feeding there, it is my garden with the squirrels and weird fruit combinations. It gets better every year. So be like my garden don’t be perfect. Just try to be better every year. Your character will become more complex, richer and more interesting and that is more than enough for anyone.

Self Love Great Medicine – Love comes from within.

Today I want to discuss the phrase self love great medicine. Does self love bring joy or narcissism?

What do you see in the mirror?

I guess that the answer is a bit of both. You need to have a self love. If you don’t love yourself, loving others with a true feeling of passion and awareness becomes much more challenging. Teachers are particularly good at looking at themselves and picking themselves to pieces over their perceived failings in the classroom. Here is an odd thing which has happened over the last 40 years. 40 years ago, when I was a school kid, the student was responsible for their own grades. If a kid worked, he got rewarded. If he didn’t, then he got in trouble. The same with the parents. Parents were responsible for making sure all the work got done. The teacher (who incidentally only influences the academic outcome by 3-5%) was simple the conduit of knowledge.

Self Love Great Medicine – Be a kid’s role model.

Self Love Great Medicine – Love your teaching style

Now all has been flipped on its head. The teacher is now responsible for the grades and progress. The kid and his long hours on the X-box and tablet, is not. Likewise the parents point out they need to work and have no time for their kids homework. The big school bosses still need to focus on progress and achievement. So pressure come to the teacher from above, below and all around.

This is where the self love great medicine chant comes in. You, as a teacher, need to do what you can do. No matter what, you need to deliver the information in as many ways as you think might stick. You need to remain true to your teaching style. Mimicking another teacher doesn’t work. It just makes you look false, insecure and you need to do double the work of a natural of that style. You also need to keep a healthy life – work balance.

Sometimes it is good to keep your talents hidden.

However the self love great medicine idea does have flaws in it. If you think you are a fabulous guitar player or musician, you might want to throw some music into the curriculum. However, you need to draw a line at a little and a ‘look at me, I love myself and I’m so cool’. Sometimes too much self love can detract from the message you are trying to send to the class.

Here is another I interesting question, surely our self love is what go us into the environmental mess we are now in. It is a mix of feeling depressed and trying to cheer ourselves up with consumer goods and thinking we are lively and deserve to treat ourselves with yet more consumer goods that has left us drowning in plastic.

Rewarding ourselves less might bring more planet self-love.

By thinking we are great and showering self love through consumer goods, what we are really doing is polluting somewhere far away for something destined within a year or two for our own landfills. There your folly will sit for a few thousand years before being dug up by future archeologists looking for a new fuel source such as converting old plastic into oil. This is particularly true for fast fashion. Likewise for children’s fads and phases.

We need to stop thinking small. Our self love great medicine ideas should be extended to the planetary system in general. Our self love should extend to living as simply as we can. Try using as few resources as you can and recycling and upcycling on a daily basis.

This year my self-contained greenhouses which require no additional watering will be adding a constant supply of tree seedlings to my local area.

Every home regardless of size should grow at least some of it’s own food, from commonly used garden herbs to a few tomatoes in a pot. By growing them, people get into the habit of realising everything worthwhile takes effort. By growing more from scratch, the general population may waste less food. In addition, you will know exactly how organic your food is.

You are beautiful – Believe me!

Lets encourage self love in the young, let them know they are beautiful and the beauty comes from within and in many different forms. Discourage over indulgent self love in adulthood and finally we have the perfect answer to the famous phrase, self love great medicine!

New Year Teaching Resolutions – Super kids!

Here are my New Year Teaching Resolutions. Comment about what yours will be below.

The first is to find the time to become a daily blogger. It is a really fun activity which focuses my mind and builds up my creativity. My target is to complete this task and blog daily for a complete 365 days non-stop. I’m great at starting online projects but terrible at getting past a certain level before calling it a day and stopping. Every day I make my students journal and so it is only fair to try and do the same.

Another New Year Teaching Resolution I want to get all my class into reading and fully understand comprehension. My aim is to give them very short, focused reading tasks on a daily basis and get them all to the correct level by June. This is trickier than it sounds as my timetable is jam packed. In addition, none of my students have English as a first language and half have some sort of learning disability. But as they say, only by reaching for the stars do you avoid having a mouthful of dirt.

New Year Teaching Resolutions include inside and outside school ideas.

I need to get back into my daily fitness routine. At the moment it is cold and dark at 5.00, when I leave my school. As you can imagine, walking for an hour next to densely packed fancy cars all the way home isn’t something which warms my soul. Bug then again sitting on a bus both ways each day is doing terrible things to my waistline!

I want to find new ways of making a secondary, passive income. I tried to become a world famous Youtuber but it is a lot harder than it looks. It requires total silence in the house and never worked for me. Writing daily on my wonderful Samsung A20 phone is working out a lot better for me.

Everyone should be growing something for personal happiness.

I want to get into my gardening in a lot more serious way. Last year, as I tried to become a world famous Youtuber. I didn’t spend nearly enough time playing in the garden as I made videos. This year I plan to really. Really really get my garden up to scratch, full of flowers and butterflies.

I want to get the work-life balance right. A major aim I have is to write one post a day. Ironically I must also try to resist the temptation to write constantly. My creative passions sometimes overwhelm me. I sometimes get work-life-blogging balance wrong.

Another time management task I want to improve is I I plan to keep on top of all my marking, planning and administrative work. I also need to keep on top of all my teachers’ administrative work. This is rather a tall order, bug I will try my best.

I want to find the time to also complete more online training, develop new links to other schools and meet new people. To improve my role as a school leader, I want to network and market my school (believe it of not, I’m rather reserved in real life and so struggle in these areas).

Getting kids to love maths is just fun for me.

I plan to continue to learn and develop my skills as a primary school mathematics teacher and encourage my kids to get ever more involved in their own learning. My class has three levels of learners and I want them all to become a lot more independent.

As if this wasn’t enough, I would like to also have the time this summer to simply stop. Perhaps watch the flowers grow. I’d like to enjoy doing absolutely nothing. Perhaps a beach holiday and get back into reading lots of kindle books. Maybe even find the time and energy to write a few of my own.

I need to find more time in the evenings to develop my social side. I would love to become more socially active, visit more restaurants, travel and go to the local comedy theatre.

As I have lived in Romania a very long time, I would live to be able to get my citizenship here. This is quite a tricky job as my spoken Romanian is terrible. This because I am too busy on my 101 other dreams to sit down and master the grammar I need to know to do this.

However my much shorter list of New Year Teaching Resolutions is as long as I am healthy, loved, love and have enough money for the occasional treat, I am sure everything else I do will be just fine.

I wish all my readers a really happy, successful year. I look forward to hearing about some of the things you plan for your New Year Teaching Resolutions.